If you have to delete your calls and texts from your coworker who you claim to be "just friends with" before you go home every day, that's still cheating and reason to be suspect. Very questionable behavior for certain. But if it justifies it with you and you can live with yourself by doing it, then run with it. It doesn't change the facts that you're being deceptive, just know that I've known about it for some time now. Maybe that new mall in NC is open by now and he'll take you.